Ace Parenting Info: Connect With Your Child But Don’t Overdo It
Every parent has a desire to relate to and be involved with their child. The children of involved parents in most cases feel more confident, assured and have good self esteem. Such kids ordinarily do well at school and with their hobbies and extracurricular activities.
Can there be too much involvement? It’s essential when you’re becoming involved with your school-aged son or daughter’s schooling and activities that you appreciate what becoming too involved could be.
Remember, you’re becoming involved in your son or daughter’s life. It’s essential that you don’t thrust yourself too much upon it. Kids need their space and privacy and they need to be able to develop their own skills, abilities and talents. In our keenness to assist our child succeed, it’s very tempting to want to take over and start doing a task for thembecause you believe they are doing it the wrong way or inadequately. Just remember, you had to learn too, and this is their time to learn on their own.
Of course you should be there to encourage and support your child, and offer praise at a task done well. But also remember to step back and give your child to learn from their own mistakes, and to evolve their own way of doing things. We all know from our own experiences that there is always more than just one way to do something, and just because your child is doing it in a different way from what you would doesn’t mean it is wrong. Who knows, there is scope to learn from your child as well.
In addition, try not to be too bossy or intrusive when it comes to their social life. Be available for them should they want to talk and urge them to share their concerns with you in order that you can help them sort through any problem. But if they say they don’t want to chat about it or they feel they need a little time to work things out for themselves, abide by that need by letting them know you’re available whenever they need to talk. This is a vital element of growing up and allowing your son or daughter to figure their own pathway through issues is a vital element of the progression.